Comments on: Variables of the Monday or Friday Decision http://talkingstory.org/2006/03/variables-of-the-monday-or-friday-decision/ Starting new conversations in the workplace! Fri, 11 May 2012 01:39:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Rosa Say http://talkingstory.org/2006/03/variables-of-the-monday-or-friday-decision/comment-page-1/#comment-1786 Rosa Say Sun, 19 Mar 2006 22:35:17 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=624#comment-1786 Aloha Dan, thank you so much for sharing your mana'o here with us. I feel very humbled by your comment that "This is wonderful, artful stuff," for "artful" is a word I absolutely would use to describe the writing which you do on your Unfolding Leadership. Yours is a very restful and soothing blog I normally choose to visit on weekends or when I have much more time. Mahalo nui for your visit and for your words of wisdom shared here. With aloha, Rosa Aloha Dan, thank you so much for sharing your mana’o here with us.
I feel very humbled by your comment that “This is wonderful, artful stuff,” for “artful” is a word I absolutely would use to describe the writing which you do on your Unfolding Leadership. Yours is a very restful and soothing blog I normally choose to visit on weekends or when I have much more time.
Mahalo nui for your visit and for your words of wisdom shared here.
With aloha, Rosa

]]> By: Dan http://talkingstory.org/2006/03/variables-of-the-monday-or-friday-decision/comment-page-1/#comment-1785 Dan Sun, 19 Mar 2006 21:33:08 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=624#comment-1785 Rosa This is wonderful, artful stuff. It makes me think about an exercise I have sometimes done in classes for managers and supervisors on coaching their employees. I ask people to think about who has positively coached and mentored them in their own lives, and specifically what the coach did for them and how. (It's a sad commentary that frequently there are people in my classes who have never had the experience.) With enormous frequency those with positive past experiences report that the coach believed in them, challenged them, and saw more potential and capability in them than at the time they yet saw in themselves. The irony is that often when supervisors and managers approach difficult conversations they do so from the standpoint of seeing less in the person being coached than the person sees in themselves. The negative mindset generates a self-fulfilling prophecy -- no one likes to be regarded as being less than they are in their own heart. So the trick is to use the power of workplace "intimacy" (into-me-you-see) to call the person to their best self. And, of course, that also requires the supervisor or manager to operate from a personal best self, as well. Thanks for writing so well on this subject. Rosa
This is wonderful, artful stuff. It makes me think about an exercise I have sometimes done in classes for managers and supervisors on coaching their employees. I ask people to think about who has positively coached and mentored them in their own lives, and specifically what the coach did for them and how. (It’s a sad commentary that frequently there are people in my classes who have never had the experience.) With enormous frequency those with positive past experiences report that the coach believed in them, challenged them, and saw more potential and capability in them than at the time they yet saw in themselves.
The irony is that often when supervisors and managers approach difficult conversations they do so from the standpoint of seeing less in the person being coached than the person sees in themselves. The negative mindset generates a self-fulfilling prophecy — no one likes to be regarded as being less than they are in their own heart.
So the trick is to use the power of workplace “intimacy” (into-me-you-see) to call the person to their best self. And, of course, that also requires the supervisor or manager to operate from a personal best self, as well.
Thanks for writing so well on this subject.

]]> By: Managing with Aloha http://talkingstory.org/2006/03/variables-of-the-monday-or-friday-decision/comment-page-1/#comment-1787 Managing with Aloha Sat, 18 Mar 2006 19:57:56 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=624#comment-1787 <strong>Everyday Performance Reviews, plus links</strong> I keep thinking about annual performance reviews because the discussion keeps coming up. The latest article I have up on Lifehack.org for Leon is called Everyday Performance Reviews. It expands on the discussion we just had earlier this week on Everyday Performance Reviews, plus links

I keep thinking about annual performance reviews because the discussion keeps coming up. The latest article I have up on Lifehack.org for Leon is called Everyday Performance Reviews. It expands on the discussion we just had earlier this week on

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