Comments on: Learning from the Outside In: One Woman’s Method to Gladness http://talkingstory.org/2006/09/learning-from-the-outside-in-one-womans-method-to-gladness/ Starting new conversations in the workplace! Tue, 07 Feb 2012 17:13:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: The Clearing Space http://talkingstory.org/2006/09/learning-from-the-outside-in-one-womans-method-to-gladness/comment-page-1/#comment-1417 The Clearing Space Thu, 16 Nov 2006 06:41:00 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=528#comment-1417 <strong>Going Against the Grain - Introvert plays Extrovert</strong> When you have a couple of weeks where you're so busy (read - launch of SOXS - click here to see why) that even getting dinner on the table before 7:30pm each night is a real challenge... it's hard to Going Against the Grain – Introvert plays Extrovert

When you have a couple of weeks where you’re so busy (read – launch of SOXS – click here to see why) that even getting dinner on the table before 7:30pm each night is a real challenge… it’s hard to

]]> By: Kelly King Anderson http://talkingstory.org/2006/09/learning-from-the-outside-in-one-womans-method-to-gladness/comment-page-1/#comment-1416 Kelly King Anderson Fri, 22 Sep 2006 00:21:34 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=528#comment-1416 Thank you for sharing your experiences in this way. I work with women and mom entrepreneurs who are definitely living outside the box, mostly working from home and I also encourage everyone to take time to nurture themselves (particularly when they have kids!) and to eat well, get out (and meet nature and friends!), and just breathe deeply. I love that you've developed your own style, I am developing mine too...trying to find where it is with my 3 little ones and running a home business and a women's entrepreneur network. I am confident that I will find my own rhythmn for work and keep the balance that I need so everyone can be peaceful at home and grow my business too. I look forward to reading your book! Check out my blog sometime. Best, Kelly King Anderson www.startupPrincess.com Thank you for sharing your experiences in this way. I work with women and mom entrepreneurs who are definitely living outside the box, mostly working from home and I also encourage everyone to take time to nurture themselves (particularly when they have kids!) and to eat well, get out (and meet nature and friends!), and just breathe deeply. I love that you’ve developed your own style, I am developing mine too…trying to find where it is with my 3 little ones and running a home business and a women’s entrepreneur network. I am confident that I will find my own rhythmn for work and keep the balance that I need so everyone can be peaceful at home and grow my business too. I look forward to reading your book! Check out my blog sometime. Best, Kelly King Anderson http://www.startupPrincess.com

]]> By: Andrea Learned http://talkingstory.org/2006/09/learning-from-the-outside-in-one-womans-method-to-gladness/comment-page-1/#comment-1415 Andrea Learned Mon, 18 Sep 2006 09:53:39 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=528#comment-1415 Dogs are actually the big secret to getting anyone outside. My parents didn't have one for years and just recently ended up with one. It has really got my mom outside and noticing the little things again. Have fun with your dogs! And, thanks so much for your kind words re: my writing. I love to do it. Dogs are actually the big secret to getting anyone outside. My parents didn’t have one for years and just recently ended up with one. It has really got my mom outside and noticing the little things again.
Have fun with your dogs! And, thanks so much for your kind words re: my writing. I love to do it.

]]> By: Karen http://talkingstory.org/2006/09/learning-from-the-outside-in-one-womans-method-to-gladness/comment-page-1/#comment-1414 Karen Mon, 18 Sep 2006 06:43:06 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=528#comment-1414 Andrea - I just love your writing. Have you secretly been looking at my life lately?? You were certainly speaking my life - that of an 'inside out' person who needs to weekly, even daily, remind herself that 'outside in' works better. (Although I have never heard it put that way before - simple and meaningful - thanks.) I've just taken the leap, and added not one but TWO dogs to our family.. and they are already providing the impetus for not only me, but the whole family, to get outside their boxes. Andrea – I just love your writing. Have you secretly been looking at my life lately?? You were certainly speaking my life – that of an ‘inside out’ person who needs to weekly, even daily, remind herself that ‘outside in’ works better. (Although I have never heard it put that way before – simple and meaningful – thanks.)
I’ve just taken the leap, and added not one but TWO dogs to our family.. and they are already providing the impetus for not only me, but the whole family, to get outside their boxes.

]]> By: Andrea Learned http://talkingstory.org/2006/09/learning-from-the-outside-in-one-womans-method-to-gladness/comment-page-1/#comment-1413 Andrea Learned Mon, 11 Sep 2006 09:29:40 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=528#comment-1413 If I've convinced just one person to look a teeny tiny bit outside of their boxes and structure - like you, Chris! - my intention for participating in this forum has been met! Glad I got you thinking... And, let me know how it goes after you've tried "outside in" for a while. If I’ve convinced just one person to look a teeny tiny bit outside of their boxes and structure – like you, Chris! – my intention for participating in this forum has been met! Glad I got you thinking… And, let me know how it goes after you’ve tried “outside in” for a while.

]]> By: Chris http://talkingstory.org/2006/09/learning-from-the-outside-in-one-womans-method-to-gladness/comment-page-1/#comment-1412 Chris Mon, 11 Sep 2006 08:56:42 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=528#comment-1412 Oh Andrea As one who finds safety and security in CHOOSING boxes and structure in my life, I am astounded that you could so tempt me with your perspectives. Now you've got me really thinking! Oh Andrea
As one who finds safety and security in CHOOSING boxes and structure in my life, I am astounded that you could so tempt me with your perspectives.
Now you’ve got me really thinking!

]]> By: Dave http://talkingstory.org/2006/09/learning-from-the-outside-in-one-womans-method-to-gladness/comment-page-1/#comment-1411 Dave Sat, 09 Sep 2006 12:22:24 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=528#comment-1411 Andrea, One of Julia's things is to "write from where you are." You have painted a most clear portrait of that for us here. May the constraints of boundaries never limit your beautiful, creative spirit! Andrea, One of Julia’s things is to “write from where you are.” You have painted a most clear portrait of that for us here. May the constraints of boundaries never limit your beautiful, creative spirit!

]]> By: Andrea Learned http://talkingstory.org/2006/09/learning-from-the-outside-in-one-womans-method-to-gladness/comment-page-1/#comment-1410 Andrea Learned Sat, 09 Sep 2006 11:47:56 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=528#comment-1410 How great that you can influence students with this wisdom so early on in their lives/careers, Rosa! I, too, find myself encouraging this sort of thing with the college kids I come across here in Burlington. Anyway - it has been wonderful to feel like my story might have inspired one or two of your readers. I am impressed at how active this community is.. and thanks to all of you for a fun experience. How great that you can influence students with this wisdom so early on in their lives/careers, Rosa! I, too, find myself encouraging this sort of thing with the college kids I come across here in Burlington.
Anyway – it has been wonderful to feel like my story might have inspired one or two of your readers. I am impressed at how active this community is.. and thanks to all of you for a fun experience.

]]> By: Rosa Say http://talkingstory.org/2006/09/learning-from-the-outside-in-one-womans-method-to-gladness/comment-page-1/#comment-1409 Rosa Say Sat, 09 Sep 2006 03:20:33 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=528#comment-1409 Aloha Andrea, for me your contribution to our learning forum is about Nānā i ke kumu, the Hawaiian value which urges us to “look to our source.” It’s a very powerful concept. Our families and friends can be very well meaning in their wish to mentor us, and set a good example for us, but there are times when the best we can do is to look within, and listen to the patterns of our own feelings, trying our best to listen to what they tell us. Amazing how timely this is: I very recently spoke about MWA to an MBA class. Their professor had assigned MWA as one of their course textbooks, and I received a wonderful gift: copies of their book reports, revealing how they planned to use the book’s coaching. He had also urged them to send me some questions, to help me prepare a presentation for my visit that would be very personalized for them (as you can imagine, I’m one author who is a big fan of this particular professor, but I digress.) One of them had this question for me: “I can’t seem to get a break these days even after all the years of listening to my parents, teachers, professors, and mentors about going to school to get a degree, because with it, I would be able to get a job. I’m about down on my luck after so long and so many disappointments in my job search. If you were my mentor, how would you motivate me? What would you advise?” In a word, my advice was “Nānā i ke kumu.” I told the student that although we had just met, my hunch was that she needed to shut out all those “helpful” voices and find her own ho‘ohana, looking within to her own strengths, values, and seemingly selfish wants and desires. I explained that as an employer, I would go through hoops to find an opening for someone applying for a job with me if they reeked of their own passion versus one who supposedly said all the “right” things. However it can be difficult to listen to our own voices; we become our biggest naysayers. As everyone has said here, your quest to learn about yourself is very inspiring. Thank you so very much for sharing this with us. Aloha Andrea, for me your contribution to our learning forum is about Nānā i ke kumu, the Hawaiian value which urges us to “look to our source.” It’s a very powerful concept. Our families and friends can be very well meaning in their wish to mentor us, and set a good example for us, but there are times when the best we can do is to look within, and listen to the patterns of our own feelings, trying our best to listen to what they tell us.
Amazing how timely this is:
I very recently spoke about MWA to an MBA class. Their professor had assigned MWA as one of their course textbooks, and I received a wonderful gift: copies of their book reports, revealing how they planned to use the book’s coaching. He had also urged them to send me some questions, to help me prepare a presentation for my visit that would be very personalized for them (as you can imagine, I’m one author who is a big fan of this particular professor, but I digress.) One of them had this question for me:
“I can’t seem to get a break these days even after all the years of listening to my parents, teachers, professors, and mentors about going to school to get a degree, because with it, I would be able to get a job. I’m about down on my luck after so long and so many disappointments in my job search. If you were my mentor, how would you motivate me? What would you advise?”
In a word, my advice was “Nānā i ke kumu.” I told the student that although we had just met, my hunch was that she needed to shut out all those “helpful” voices and find her own ho‘ohana, looking within to her own strengths, values, and seemingly selfish wants and desires. I explained that as an employer, I would go through hoops to find an opening for someone applying for a job with me if they reeked of their own passion versus one who supposedly said all the “right” things.
However it can be difficult to listen to our own voices; we become our biggest naysayers. As everyone has said here, your quest to learn about yourself is very inspiring. Thank you so very much for sharing this with us.

]]> By: Starbucker http://talkingstory.org/2006/09/learning-from-the-outside-in-one-womans-method-to-gladness/comment-page-1/#comment-1408 Starbucker Fri, 08 Sep 2006 19:29:52 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=528#comment-1408 What a great prospective you bring to this dialogue we're having Andrea - as someone who is "inside the box" right now you present a tantalizing view of what it's like on the other side. It's wonderful that you were able to make this discovery about yourself - that took a lot of courage. I also liked the point about taking responsibility for your writing, in order to find your true potential. That inspires me to do the same, even if it's just my little old blog. Thanks for your post and well done. What a great prospective you bring to this dialogue we’re having Andrea – as someone who is “inside the box” right now you present a tantalizing view of what it’s like on the other side. It’s wonderful that you were able to make this discovery about yourself – that took a lot of courage. I also liked the point about taking responsibility for your writing, in order to find your true potential. That inspires me to do the same, even if it’s just my little old blog. Thanks for your post and well done.

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