Comments on: “What’s in it for me?” is a Self-Leadership Question http://talkingstory.org/2009/07/whats-in-it-for-me-is-a-self-leadership-question/ Starting new conversations in the workplace! Tue, 07 Feb 2012 17:13:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Rosa Say http://talkingstory.org/2009/07/whats-in-it-for-me-is-a-self-leadership-question/comment-page-1/#comment-4 Rosa Say Wed, 29 Jul 2009 00:39:59 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=5#comment-4 Aloha Lorraine, thank you for your comment, I so appreciate your empathy and your openness. As a fellow coach I can also empathize with you: We help others by profession so naturally, that sometimes the need to self-coach can be as startling as a bucket of cold water thrown at us --- at least that's how it is for me! Aloha Wally, I LOVE your add! "What does this demand from me" is a fabulous self-coaching question - a crucial understanding. The last part of your comment makes me smile with the memory of so many different faces too... faces where that aha! moment dawns when they're asked, "and what about your boss? What do you think this would mean to him/ her?" Aloha Lorraine, thank you for your comment, I so appreciate your empathy and your openness. As a fellow coach I can also empathize with you: We help others by profession so naturally, that sometimes the need to self-coach can be as startling as a bucket of cold water thrown at us — at least that’s how it is for me!

Aloha Wally, I LOVE your add! “What does this demand from me” is a fabulous self-coaching question – a crucial understanding. The last part of your comment makes me smile with the memory of so many different faces too… faces where that aha! moment dawns when they’re asked, “and what about your boss? What do you think this would mean to him/ her?”

]]> By: Wally Bock http://talkingstory.org/2009/07/whats-in-it-for-me-is-a-self-leadership-question/comment-page-1/#comment-3 Wally Bock Tue, 28 Jul 2009 18:45:52 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=5#comment-3 I love this post, Rosa. You are absolutely correct that being a servant leader and asking "What's in it for me?" are quite compatible. Asking the question doesn't mean that you don't seek to do things that help others. It's also important to realize that you can't give a drink from an entry cup. Sometimes asking the question about what's in it for me also gets to "what does this demand from me." And bosses, as much as any other people thrive on interesting and meaningful work. The WIIFM question goes right to that. I love this post, Rosa. You are absolutely correct that being a servant leader and asking “What’s in it for me?” are quite compatible. Asking the question doesn’t mean that you don’t seek to do things that help others.
It’s also important to realize that you can’t give a drink from an entry cup. Sometimes asking the question about what’s in it for me also gets to “what does this demand from me.”
And bosses, as much as any other people thrive on interesting and meaningful work. The WIIFM question goes right to that.

]]> By: Lorraine Rinker http://talkingstory.org/2009/07/whats-in-it-for-me-is-a-self-leadership-question/comment-page-1/#comment-2 Lorraine Rinker Tue, 28 Jul 2009 14:44:42 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=5#comment-2 Rosa - Mahalo for helping me see the self-coaching perspective of the "what's in it for me?" question - - I've always tended to that question in terms of others. Always making sure everyone else's WIIFM was handled in terms business strategies, career development plans, performance assessments, etc. - - never consciously asking that question of myself. With your help, I realize that answering the WIIFM question for myself does not invade the value I place on my role as a servant leader. If anything, it helps me to clarify my intentions. Many thanks :) With Aloha, LLR Rosa – Mahalo for helping me see the self-coaching perspective of the “what’s in it for me?” question – - I’ve always tended to that question in terms of others. Always making sure everyone else’s WIIFM was handled in terms business strategies, career development plans, performance assessments, etc. – - never consciously asking that question of myself. With your help, I realize that answering the WIIFM question for myself does not invade the value I place on my role as a servant leader. If anything, it helps me to clarify my intentions. Many thanks :) With Aloha, LLR

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