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		<title>By: Simon Young</title>
		<link>http://talkingstory.org/2009/09/cultivating-a-well-behaved-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-3242</link>
		<dc:creator>Simon Young</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Sep 2009 01:08:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Outside? I&#039;d never even thought of that. Plenty of distractions right here on the interweb... :)
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Outside? I&#8217;d never even thought of that. Plenty of distractions right here on the interweb&#8230; :)<br />
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		<title>By: Rosa Say</title>
		<link>http://talkingstory.org/2009/09/cultivating-a-well-behaved-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-3238</link>
		<dc:creator>Rosa Say</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:44:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Simon, you are as delightful as ever! If I were in Auckland with you, I&#039;d be going for all those distractions outside!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Simon, you are as delightful as ever! If I were in Auckland with you, I&#8217;d be going for all those distractions outside!</p>
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		<title>By: Simon Young</title>
		<link>http://talkingstory.org/2009/09/cultivating-a-well-behaved-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-3236</link>
		<dc:creator>Simon Young</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Sep 2009 06:09:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I really needed to read this post, right now. I then turned off iTunes (playing a podcast) and Tweetdeck, and after this, I&#039;m going back to the task I started about 90 minutes ago ... and got distracted from. 

Thanks!
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I really needed to read this post, right now. I then turned off iTunes (playing a podcast) and Tweetdeck, and after this, I&#8217;m going back to the task I started about 90 minutes ago &#8230; and got distracted from. </p>
<p>Thanks!<br />
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		<title>By: Dave Rothacker</title>
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		<dc:creator>Dave Rothacker</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2009 13:36:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Antoine de Saint-Exupéry is the author of the quote I referenced.

I guess I was thinking about the results we might be getting when we tune into mindfulness Rosa. I&#039;m thinking we have a better chance to inspire our way into getting what we want as opposed to telling ourselves. In either case it certainly can be thought of as training. 

Actually, I think the ideas that you&#039;ve come up with are really good.
.-= Dave Rothacker´s last blog ..&lt;a href=&quot;http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheTechnicianShop/~3/l7CrJ0o8LAE/your-salesman-part-i&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Your Salesman (Part I)&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Antoine de Saint-Exupéry is the author of the quote I referenced.</p>
<p>I guess I was thinking about the results we might be getting when we tune into mindfulness Rosa. I&#8217;m thinking we have a better chance to inspire our way into getting what we want as opposed to telling ourselves. In either case it certainly can be thought of as training. </p>
<p>Actually, I think the ideas that you&#8217;ve come up with are really good.<br />
.-= Dave Rothacker´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheTechnicianShop/~3/l7CrJ0o8LAE/your-salesman-part-i" rel="nofollow">Your Salesman (Part I)</a> =-.</p>
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		<title>By: Joanna Young</title>
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		<dc:creator>Joanna Young</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2009 07:33:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Rosa, yes, it&#039;s two years in a row :-)  Thank you.

Thanks too for the article on brain science and positive / negative thoughts.  I&#039;m getting more and more interested in writing and the brain - how the conscious choice to write something positive for example, consistently, over time, changes patterns in our brains and (as a consequence) changes the way we feel, act, and perceive the world.
.-= Joanna Young´s last blog ..&lt;a href=&quot;http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ConfidentWriting/~3/-6spGc0JSYM/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Confident Writing is one of the Top 10 Blogs for Writers&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Rosa, yes, it&#8217;s two years in a row :-)  Thank you.</p>
<p>Thanks too for the article on brain science and positive / negative thoughts.  I&#8217;m getting more and more interested in writing and the brain &#8211; how the conscious choice to write something positive for example, consistently, over time, changes patterns in our brains and (as a consequence) changes the way we feel, act, and perceive the world.<br />
.-= Joanna Young´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ConfidentWriting/~3/-6spGc0JSYM/" rel="nofollow">Confident Writing is one of the Top 10 Blogs for Writers</a> =-.</p>
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		<title>By: Rosa Say</title>
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		<dc:creator>Rosa Say</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2009 02:47:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I am with you on this Jeff (in regard to impatience), it doesn’t sound silly to me at all. We seem to both be channeling our impatience into a more vigorous questioning, asking ourselves to stop for a moment and clarify: “Hey, hold up, what’s really going on here?” so we can be sure we are getting to that root cause you mention. 

Where I suspect that discontent can help me is that I want to get to contentment, and not necessarily to patience: I want to keep the sense of urgency that impatience fires up.

And Jeff, wonderful to see you back here for something other than #fridayflash! I am thrilled to know that &lt;em&gt;Talking Story&lt;/em&gt; may have more appeal for you.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am with you on this Jeff (in regard to impatience), it doesn’t sound silly to me at all. We seem to both be channeling our impatience into a more vigorous questioning, asking ourselves to stop for a moment and clarify: “Hey, hold up, what’s really going on here?” so we can be sure we are getting to that root cause you mention. </p>
<p>Where I suspect that discontent can help me is that I want to get to contentment, and not necessarily to patience: I want to keep the sense of urgency that impatience fires up.</p>
<p>And Jeff, wonderful to see you back here for something other than #fridayflash! I am thrilled to know that <em>Talking Story</em> may have more appeal for you.</p>
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		<title>By: Rosa Say</title>
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		<dc:creator>Rosa Say</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2009 02:36:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dave and Ulla, I get this, I truly do, but I am discovering I need another turbo boost of some kind as well... those happy ending pictures are not enough sometimes, thus my exploration here to see what else I can add to a more winning strategy.

What I am trying to dig deeper into discovering Ulla, is this part: &quot;and then off I go.&quot;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dave and Ulla, I get this, I truly do, but I am discovering I need another turbo boost of some kind as well&#8230; those happy ending pictures are not enough sometimes, thus my exploration here to see what else I can add to a more winning strategy.</p>
<p>What I am trying to dig deeper into discovering Ulla, is this part: &#8220;and then off I go.&#8221;</p>
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		<title>By: Rosa Say</title>
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		<dc:creator>Rosa Say</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2009 02:29:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Joanna I think this will be one of those long-standing &quot;still learning&quot; questions for me too.

&lt;em&gt;Mahalo&lt;/em&gt; [Gratitude] is a terrific add; thank you. It helps improve our attitude &lt;em&gt;and&lt;/em&gt; as I&#039;d shared with Dean earlier, I have learned there is also scientific evidence that it is smart strategy. As amazing as our brains are they only deal with one thought at a time - replacing a negative thought with a positive one knocks out the obstacle: &lt;a href=&quot;http://talkingstory.org/2007/06/believe-in-your-biology/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Believe in your Biology!&lt;/a&gt;

And by the way Joanna, &lt;em&gt;Ho‘omaika‘i ‘ana&lt;/em&gt; – Congratulations on making the &lt;em&gt;Top 10 Blogs for Writers!&lt;/em&gt; Second year in a row for you as I understand it!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Joanna I think this will be one of those long-standing &#8220;still learning&#8221; questions for me too.</p>
<p><em>Mahalo</em> [Gratitude] is a terrific add; thank you. It helps improve our attitude <em>and</em> as I&#8217;d shared with Dean earlier, I have learned there is also scientific evidence that it is smart strategy. As amazing as our brains are they only deal with one thought at a time &#8211; replacing a negative thought with a positive one knocks out the obstacle: <a href="http://talkingstory.org/2007/06/believe-in-your-biology/" rel="nofollow">Believe in your Biology!</a></p>
<p>And by the way Joanna, <em>Ho‘omaika‘i ‘ana</em> – Congratulations on making the <em>Top 10 Blogs for Writers!</em> Second year in a row for you as I understand it!</p>
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		<title>By: Rosa Say</title>
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		<dc:creator>Rosa Say</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2009 02:20:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dave your quote reminds me of that parable about the brick layers: 
    A gentleman saw three men laying bricks...
    He approached the first and asked, &quot;What are you doing?&quot;
    Annoyed, the first man answered, &quot;What does it look like I&#039;m doing? I&#039;m laying bricks!&quot;
    He walked over to the second bricklayer and asked the same question.
    The second man responded, &quot;Oh, just making a living.&quot;
    He asked the third bricklayer the same question, &quot;What are you doing?&quot;
    The third looked up, smiled and said, &quot;I&#039;m building a cathedral.&quot;

Good thoughts to be sure - &quot;Begin with the End in Mind&quot; as Covey coaches; have visionary thinking - however I&#039;d make the argument that we &lt;em&gt;are&lt;/em&gt; training our mind to behave when we direct its focus instead of having it randomly focus our attentions, don&#039;t you think?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dave your quote reminds me of that parable about the brick layers:<br />
    A gentleman saw three men laying bricks&#8230;<br />
    He approached the first and asked, &#8220;What are you doing?&#8221;<br />
    Annoyed, the first man answered, &#8220;What does it look like I&#8217;m doing? I&#8217;m laying bricks!&#8221;<br />
    He walked over to the second bricklayer and asked the same question.<br />
    The second man responded, &#8220;Oh, just making a living.&#8221;<br />
    He asked the third bricklayer the same question, &#8220;What are you doing?&#8221;<br />
    The third looked up, smiled and said, &#8220;I&#8217;m building a cathedral.&#8221;</p>
<p>Good thoughts to be sure &#8211; &#8220;Begin with the End in Mind&#8221; as Covey coaches; have visionary thinking &#8211; however I&#8217;d make the argument that we <em>are</em> training our mind to behave when we direct its focus instead of having it randomly focus our attentions, don&#8217;t you think?</p>
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		<title>By: Jeff Posey</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jeff Posey</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Sep 2009 17:22:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Rosa:

Your post makes me think a couple of things. First, quieting the mind is difficult, just as thinking of nothing is the most difficult thing to think. When I get frantic, I make lists (figuring that getting it out of my mind and onto paper helps quiet my crazy-brain) and I use a kitchen timer. I&#039;ll set it for, say, one hour, and for that one hour I focus on doing one thing. Works for me. 

Next, and last, is your comment about impatience. I&#039;ve thought a lot about that, too. It seems to me the root of impatience is anguish over the fact that we&#039;ve not already gotten something else done, or we&#039;re not somewhere else. We&#039;re angry that we&#039;re stuck at this stoplight rather than moving along at the posted speed (or faster). Why is that? Is there something so much better that we suffer now because we&#039;re not &quot;there&quot; yet? That&#039;s what it feels like. Sometimes impatience will fall away when you realize that&#039;s a fallacy. Here and now is better than if and when for the sole reason that we exist purely here, now. And yes, I know how silly this sounds from a fellow who writes historical fiction and spends a good part of my time imagining the &quot;then and there.&quot; Regardless of my credibility, I think it anyway.
.-= Jeff Posey´s last blog ..&lt;a href=&quot;http://anasazistories.wordpress.com/2009/09/18/of-lines-and-string/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Of Lines and String&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Rosa:</p>
<p>Your post makes me think a couple of things. First, quieting the mind is difficult, just as thinking of nothing is the most difficult thing to think. When I get frantic, I make lists (figuring that getting it out of my mind and onto paper helps quiet my crazy-brain) and I use a kitchen timer. I&#8217;ll set it for, say, one hour, and for that one hour I focus on doing one thing. Works for me. </p>
<p>Next, and last, is your comment about impatience. I&#8217;ve thought a lot about that, too. It seems to me the root of impatience is anguish over the fact that we&#8217;ve not already gotten something else done, or we&#8217;re not somewhere else. We&#8217;re angry that we&#8217;re stuck at this stoplight rather than moving along at the posted speed (or faster). Why is that? Is there something so much better that we suffer now because we&#8217;re not &#8220;there&#8221; yet? That&#8217;s what it feels like. Sometimes impatience will fall away when you realize that&#8217;s a fallacy. Here and now is better than if and when for the sole reason that we exist purely here, now. And yes, I know how silly this sounds from a fellow who writes historical fiction and spends a good part of my time imagining the &#8220;then and there.&#8221; Regardless of my credibility, I think it anyway.<br />
.-= Jeff Posey´s last blog ..<a href="http://anasazistories.wordpress.com/2009/09/18/of-lines-and-string/" rel="nofollow">Of Lines and String</a> =-.</p>
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