Comments on: You’ll Be the Company you Keep http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/be-the-company-you-keep/ Starting new conversations in the workplace! Fri, 11 May 2012 01:39:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Rosa Say http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/be-the-company-you-keep/comment-page-1/#comment-5589 Rosa Say Thu, 03 Mar 2011 01:20:37 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3580#comment-5589 Aloha Connie, good to meet you. I think so, that it <i>is</i> possible to "accept and love someone unconditionally and still let them go." We can't be all things for all people, and it might be that we serve them better by being apart, but that doesn't necessarily mean we stop loving them. I like to think of this in terms of our energy, recognizing that others do affect us in one of two ways: Either they add to our positive energies, or they drain them away from us. Commiseration for instance, is a definite draining compared to when others fascinate and inspire us. Aloha Connie, good to meet you.

I think so, that it is possible to “accept and love someone unconditionally and still let them go.” We can’t be all things for all people, and it might be that we serve them better by being apart, but that doesn’t necessarily mean we stop loving them.

I like to think of this in terms of our energy, recognizing that others do affect us in one of two ways: Either they add to our positive energies, or they drain them away from us. Commiseration for instance, is a definite draining compared to when others fascinate and inspire us.

]]> By: Connie McKnight http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/be-the-company-you-keep/comment-page-1/#comment-5578 Connie McKnight Wed, 02 Mar 2011 19:25:01 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3580#comment-5578 Your title "You'll Be the Company you Keep" made me want to read your article, for I have chosen to let go of some friends that didn't share my basic beliefs. I'm so glad you got my attention, for you said some things that made me question my choice. I love the whole concept of Aloha - accepting people unconditionally. Can't you still accept and love someone unconditionally and still let them go? Your title “You’ll Be the Company you Keep” made me want to read your article, for I have chosen to let go of some friends that didn’t share my basic beliefs. I’m so glad you got my attention, for you said some things that made me question my choice. I love the whole concept of Aloha – accepting people unconditionally. Can’t you still accept and love someone unconditionally and still let them go?

]]> By: Say “Alaka‘i”: Choose your Values to Make your Decisions... http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/be-the-company-you-keep/comment-page-1/#comment-4016 Say “Alaka‘i”: Choose your Values to Make your Decisions... Thu, 01 Apr 2010 10:44:35 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3580#comment-4016 How much of your decision-making is aligned with the personal values you hold dear? For instance, many of the decisions every business person must make, directly result in them choosing their customers. Make no mistake about this: How you conduct your ... How much of your decision-making is aligned with the personal values you hold dear? For instance, many of the decisions every business person must make, directly result in them choosing their customers. Make no mistake about this: How you conduct your …

]]> By: Rosa Say http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/be-the-company-you-keep/comment-page-1/#comment-3594 Rosa Say Fri, 05 Feb 2010 15:47:21 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3580#comment-3594 Good morning Jeanne, thank you so much for what you have added with your comment; your examples are wonderful in helping us all think more deeply about how we can apply this train of thought so that it isn't just an intellectual discussion, but one which does grace our life with day after day expressions. I am sure your children are learning much from you! As managers we often hear that advice to courageously hire, and otherwise surround ourselves with people smarter than us, and I like to think about that beyond their being simply "smarter," and in terms of our abundant human capacity: I love the thought that we are capable of more than we can ever get filled up with, and that if there are any capacity challenges, that the good will naturally sift out the irrelevance - other stuff we have learned, but can pack away rather than actively keep with us. Good morning Jeanne, thank you so much for what you have added with your comment; your examples are wonderful in helping us all think more deeply about how we can apply this train of thought so that it isn’t just an intellectual discussion, but one which does grace our life with day after day expressions. I am sure your children are learning much from you!

As managers we often hear that advice to courageously hire, and otherwise surround ourselves with people smarter than us, and I like to think about that beyond their being simply “smarter,” and in terms of our abundant human capacity: I love the thought that we are capable of more than we can ever get filled up with, and that if there are any capacity challenges, that the good will naturally sift out the irrelevance – other stuff we have learned, but can pack away rather than actively keep with us.

]]> By: Talking Story with Rosa Say http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/be-the-company-you-keep/comment-page-1/#comment-3590 Talking Story with Rosa Say Fri, 05 Feb 2010 10:23:47 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3580#comment-3590 <strong>Unconditional Acceptance, Nature and Nurture...</strong> In yesterday’s posting, You’ll Be the Company you Keep, I wrote, Aloha accepts all people unconditionally as our fellow human beings, worthy of the Aloha we then give, within the values-held belief that all people are good, and thus worthy of our love.... Unconditional Acceptance, Nature and Nurture…

In yesterday’s posting, You’ll Be the Company you Keep, I wrote, Aloha accepts all people unconditionally as our fellow human beings, worthy of the Aloha we then give, within the values-held belief that all people are good, and thus worthy of our love….

]]> By: Jeanne Male http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/be-the-company-you-keep/comment-page-1/#comment-3589 Jeanne Male Fri, 05 Feb 2010 07:14:38 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3580#comment-3589 Rosa, for some reason this topic has bubbled up a lot this week. As someone who has always been unconditionally in love with humanity, I've worked to drop the knee-jerk, lizard-brained judgment of others. Those closest to me know how open and accepting I am of anyone and everyone, which at first glance, seems incongruent with your message. That's exactly why it needs to be examined more closely and I'm glad that you've prompted a closer look. None are immune to becoming the company that they keep. I have tried to help my children understand how tennis players strive to "play up" if they hope to improve. Similarly, I've been musing that those who move to a foreign area often unwittingly pick up the new accent - even if it's one they don't like. That's why your message for awareness and selectivity are vital for living and leading 'with purpose and on purpose'. As much as I welcome ideas that seem foreign to me, I'm always heartened to be in communion with one of shared values. I re-read this line from your post with such knowing peace: "where their values are at a disconnect with yours; they are not irreparably "bad to the bone." Everyone can always return to a place of their goodness." Thank you, Rosa...for being a springboard for deeper thought. Rosa, for some reason this topic has bubbled up a lot this week. As someone who has always been unconditionally in love with humanity, I’ve worked to drop the knee-jerk, lizard-brained judgment of others. Those closest to me know how open and accepting I am of anyone and everyone, which at first glance, seems incongruent with your message. That’s exactly why it needs to be examined more closely and I’m glad that you’ve prompted a closer look.

None are immune to becoming the company that they keep. I have tried to help my children understand how tennis players strive to “play up” if they hope to improve. Similarly, I’ve been musing that those who move to a foreign area often unwittingly pick up the new accent – even if it’s one they don’t like. That’s why your message for awareness and selectivity are vital for living and leading ‘with purpose and on purpose’.

As much as I welcome ideas that seem foreign to me, I’m always heartened to be in communion with one of shared values. I re-read this line from your post with such knowing peace: “where their values are at a disconnect with yours; they are not irreparably “bad to the bone.” Everyone can always return to a place of their goodness.”

Thank you, Rosa…for being a springboard for deeper thought.

]]> By: Rosa Say http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/be-the-company-you-keep/comment-page-1/#comment-3588 Rosa Say Thu, 04 Feb 2010 17:11:18 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3580#comment-3588 Thank you Paul! This is a key concept for <i>Managing with Aloha</i>, at the core of what great managers believe about the people they seek to serve. I think we all want it to be true, but we do need to remind ourselves of its truth when we're in some of those tough issues which crop up; those times when there is "tough love" within Aloha. Thank you Paul! This is a key concept for Managing with Aloha, at the core of what great managers believe about the people they seek to serve. I think we all want it to be true, but we do need to remind ourselves of its truth when we’re in some of those tough issues which crop up; those times when there is “tough love” within Aloha.

]]> By: Paul http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/be-the-company-you-keep/comment-page-1/#comment-3585 Paul Thu, 04 Feb 2010 11:38:51 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3580#comment-3585 Hi Rosa, I like the sentiment and the intention behind this post a lot. Aloha comes through loud and clear on TS, just as it should ;) .-= ´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/worklifefusion/~3/MJY3lScf2zU/hold-that-thought.html" rel="nofollow">Hold that thought!</a> =-. Hi Rosa, I like the sentiment and the intention behind this post a lot.

Aloha comes through loud and clear on TS, just as it should ;)
.-= ´s last blog ..Hold that thought! =-.

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