Comments on: Unconditional Acceptance, Nature and Nurture http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/unconditional-acceptance/ Starting new conversations in the workplace! Tue, 07 Feb 2012 17:13:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Rosa Say http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/unconditional-acceptance/comment-page-1/#comment-3602 Rosa Say Sat, 06 Feb 2010 19:21:04 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3594#comment-3602 I have never been able to wrap my thoughts completely around the notion of punishment Fred, for I do find that true, that the desire to hurt can be curiously strong within our human instincts, requiring much pause and self-discipline before we act. True that regret (and remorse) are equally powerful, and while they sadden at the time, they are so much more hopeful... they reveal more possibility. And as you say, that "can be its own powerful answer." Fred, your comments consistently get me to keep reflecting on what I have written, thank you so much for continuing to visit, and share as you do! I have never been able to wrap my thoughts completely around the notion of punishment Fred, for I do find that true, that the desire to hurt can be curiously strong within our human instincts, requiring much pause and self-discipline before we act. True that regret (and remorse) are equally powerful, and while they sadden at the time, they are so much more hopeful… they reveal more possibility. And as you say, that “can be its own powerful answer.”

Fred, your comments consistently get me to keep reflecting on what I have written, thank you so much for continuing to visit, and share as you do!

]]> By: Fred H Schlegel http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/unconditional-acceptance/comment-page-1/#comment-3601 Fred H Schlegel Sat, 06 Feb 2010 19:04:44 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3594#comment-3601 Great advice Rosa. The desire to hurt as part of a punishment is a strong one and Aloha sounds like good medicine to avoid it. I have also found that most folks know perfectly well when they've messed up. May not know why, may not know how. But regret is usually already at the forefront. At that point addressing the problem in a straight forward way, addressing the disappointment, and moving on can be its own powerful answer. .-= Fred´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/frogblog/yTub/~3/SLDp3gv2n4c/" rel="nofollow">It’s In The Details</a> =-. Great advice Rosa. The desire to hurt as part of a punishment is a strong one and Aloha sounds like good medicine to avoid it. I have also found that most folks know perfectly well when they’ve messed up. May not know why, may not know how. But regret is usually already at the forefront. At that point addressing the problem in a straight forward way, addressing the disappointment, and moving on can be its own powerful answer.
.-= Fred´s last blog ..It’s In The Details =-.

]]> By: Rosa Say http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/unconditional-acceptance/comment-page-1/#comment-3593 Rosa Say Fri, 05 Feb 2010 15:36:07 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3594#comment-3593 Thank you Ulla, I appreciate your compliment, yet I do believe we all have the capacity to treat each other this way, whether we are parents, managers, teachers, or whatever our professions. And it is something else we learn when we choose it with intention; this was not my approach when I was younger, and before the day I became a mother, though I had been raised with the personal value set of Aloha and did believe people were good. I think we have several things we believe intellectually, but we do have to make these emotional, spiritual connections for them to truly get woven into our actions. Sharing our stories helps: Thank you so much for checking in with me today and reading mine. Thank you Ulla, I appreciate your compliment, yet I do believe we all have the capacity to treat each other this way, whether we are parents, managers, teachers, or whatever our professions. And it is something else we learn when we choose it with intention; this was not my approach when I was younger, and before the day I became a mother, though I had been raised with the personal value set of Aloha and did believe people were good.

I think we have several things we believe intellectually, but we do have to make these emotional, spiritual connections for them to truly get woven into our actions. Sharing our stories helps: Thank you so much for checking in with me today and reading mine.

]]> By: Ulla Hennig http://talkingstory.org/2010/02/unconditional-acceptance/comment-page-1/#comment-3592 Ulla Hennig Fri, 05 Feb 2010 12:24:09 +0000 http://talkingstory.org/?p=3594#comment-3592 Thanks for that post, Rosa! "If he struggled with a future choice for any reason, he’d raise his hand, and I’d be there to help guide him through it" I wish we had such people like you at our university! We've only got one or two who would and could do that. Sigh! .-= Ulla´s last blog ..<a href="http://ullahennig.wordpress.com/2010/02/05/living-here-and-now/" rel="nofollow">Living Here and Now</a> =-. Thanks for that post, Rosa! “If he struggled with a future choice for any reason, he’d raise his hand, and I’d be there to help guide him through it” I wish we had such people like you at our university! We’ve only got one or two who would and could do that. Sigh!
.-= Ulla´s last blog ..Living Here and Now =-.

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